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Anticipatory grief is a form of grief that occurs before the actual loss of a loved one, often arising when a person is caring for someone with a terminal or progressively debilitating illness. While grief is typically associated with the emotional aftermath of death, anticipatory grief takes hold as caregivers and family members begin to emotionally process the inevitable outcome before it happens. This type of grief is commonly seen in situations like terminal cancer or degenerative diseases such as Alzheimer’s, where the decline in health is gradual and the outcome is known long before it arrives. Anticipatory grief introduces complex and layered emotions, which can manifest well before the loved one has passed away.

People experiencing anticipatory grief may feel sadness, frustration, or anger, much like the grief that follows a death, but it is compounded by the ongoing caregiving experience. The caregiver or family member is not only witnessing the decline of their loved one but also grappling with the future loss while still managing day-to-day responsibilities. This duality—caring for someone while simultaneously preparing for their loss—creates an emotionally taxing situation. As with traditional grief, anticipatory grief can be understood through the five stages outlined in the Kubler-Ross model: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. However, when these stages present themselves during active caregiving, they take on distinct characteristics.

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